Pia Wurtzbach Recalls a Point in Her Life When She Had Only 100 Pesos in Her Wallet

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“Wala akong pera. Wala akong trabaho. As in wala lahat.”

by Marj Ramos Clemente for Preview.ph|2 DAYS AGO

Pia Wurtzbach is no doubt one of today’s most successful career women, having worked hard to achieve all of her dreams, including being crowned as Miss Universe 2015. But just like the rest of us, the 31-year-old model, actress, and beauty queen has had her fair share of struggles that made her question herself. In fact, she recently recalled a grim point in her life when she only had a measly one-hundred pesos in her wallet after going through a crazy breakup.

In a podcast episode of Between Us Queens last March 12 wherein they were asked to share their “crazy breakup story,” Pia talked about how she once went through a regrettable relationship that made her give up her career, family, and friends. 

“Before this whole pageant thing, before Miss Universe, before Binibini, I was a very different person. Under ako noon sa lalakiYung parang kung ano yung sabihin niya‘yon ang masusunodHindi ako lalaban kahit alam kong mali. I didn’t really have a voice. So, I was that kind of girl. I was very submissive,” Pia opened up. “Mas pinili ko siya kesa hanging out with friends. Mas pinili ko siya kesa sa spending time with family. I gave up my career, I stopped doing the jobs that I was doing, which also meant I didn’t have an income. So, I had nothing.”

While she didn’t name the ex-boyfriend in her story, Pia recalled feeling so lost in the relationship to the point that she had no sense of her identity anymore. Thankfully, reality struck and she realized that she needed to earn back her own voice and take back control in her life. “One day, I just woke up and I realized I didn’t want this anymore,” said the beauty queen.

Pia, who was then staying with her boyfriend, packed up her bags and left. Having no money and nowhere to go, she asked a close friend if she could sleep over for a few weeks until she’s back on her feet.

“I just remember packing whatever I could, getting into my friend’s car, and just having only 100 pesos in my wallet,” she recalled. “Wala akong pera. Wala akong trabaho. As in wala lahat. And I had to rebuild myself again from zero.”

Not letting this curveball dishearten her, Pia took it as a valuable lesson on self-love and the courage to start again from scratch, which eventually became a turning point in her life. “May mali din ako for sure kasi I let it happen,” she admitted. “After that, that was a big learning experience for me, na hindi pwedeng Yes Girl tayo palagi.”

We all know what happened after that—Pia bounced back, trained for Binibining Pilipinas, and competed three times before eventually taking home the Miss Universe crown. She is now happily coupled with Scottish travel entrepreneur Jeremy Jauncey.

True enough, it takes an empowered woman to take control of her own destiny and let go of toxic relationships. Keep inspiring, Queen P!

Why You Shouldn’t Hide Money, Purchases from Your Significant Other

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You may have already heard family or friends saying “Huwag sasabihin kay misis/mister” when it comes to buying expensive items or indulging in hobbies. While this is often said in jest (since many couples actually discuss money honestly), there are people who keep purchases—and in extension, finances—from their partners. It is a habit that hurts relationships, as it shakes the foundations of trust.

This is called “financial infidelity.” Medium journalist Kristin Wong writes, “Keeping financial secrets is an abuse of the trust the relationship is built on,” and it’s true—if you can’t trust your partner to level with you when it comes finances, how can you trust him or her with anything else?

Most people who hide purchases and accounts from their significant others often already have deep-seated relationship issues. A Huffington Post article features several reasons, including not trusting one party to handle money, or thinking that the relationship won’t last and they need cash to fall back on, or even not wanting the other to know that they’ve incurred a huge debt for fear that they’ll leave.

“In essence, a healthy relationship generally supports a fully transparent relationship between partners,” clinical psychologist Carla Marie Manly tells Huffington Post. “If a relationship is built on a strong foundation of mutual trust and respect, there is generally no need to ever hide money or finances.”

How to deal with finances as a couple

There’s no clear-cut rule on how to manage finances as a couple, especially if you’re already in a long-term relationship, are living together, or are married. There are those who put in their savings in just one bank account and pull expenses from there, while others go for separate accounts that they can use as they please while having a common one they pitch into for household payables.

It’s really about what works for you, but the most important thing is that you’re both on the same page. If you or your partner feel the need to hide your finances from each other, then that means that you’re not, and that there’s an issue that needs to be addressed. Kristin Wong goes on to write, “Financially speaking, if you’re sharing a life together, you should be sharing money in some way, too—if not in joint accounts, then by being transparent about how much each of you has and working together to tackle expenses.”

When is it okay to hide your finances from your partner?

All of that being said, there’s one extreme case when it’s okay to hide money from your partner, and that’s when in you’re in an abusive relationship. In fact, it’s a must that you hide your resources from abusers, as they tend to manipulate and gaslight you into thinking that you can’t live without them. Having money of your own can help you escape this situation and start anew.

Bottomline: Honesty

Remember that the basis of a good relationship is trust, and as much as possible, money should never be something that should put a chip between the two of you. Open communication is key to finding a system that works for you both; one that doesn’t leave any party feeling as if he or she is getting the short end of the stick. Allow each other financial freedom, because in the end, money is just a tool—it shouldn’t be at the forefront of your companionship.

How This Teacher Saved P106k in a Year With Her Ipon Challenge

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Having a “financial management system” is key.

Let’s face it. Although most of us have been working from home for the past year, it’s still hard to get through a month without depleting our suweldo

It’s no wonder Cathlyn Mariano, a 27-year-old public school teacher, got netizens saying “sana all” when she uploaded a Facebook post about her savings amounting to P106,155 that she completed in just one year. 

Cathlyn, or Cath to her friends, achieved it through anipon challenge that she carried through beginning January 2020 up until January this year. 

In an interview with Female Network, Cath revealed that her initial target was only P60,000, which she would accumulate by stashing 50 pieces of 20-peso, 50-peso, and 100-peso bills, as well as 45 pieces of 200’s, 35 of 500’s, and 25 of 1,000’s inside her pink piggy bank. 

Noong una talaga, P60,000 lang ang target amount ko sa ipon chart na ginawa ko. Pero tinuloy-tuloy ko lang siya at umabot siya ng P106,155 sa loob ng one year,” Cath said. “Gumawa po ako ng ipon challenge chart wherein I will earn P60,000 if I complete the challenge.” 

The Nueva Ecija-based iponarya understands, taking on anipon challenge (or saving in general) may seem difficult. So, she shared other tried-and-tested tips on doing it with ease. 

Tip #1: Teach yourself about money 

While being financially literate is not a pre-requisite to saving up, educating yourself even on the basics would put you on right track. Cath said it matters, especially for people like her who used to struggle financially.   

Gusto ko talaga magkaroon ng sariling bank account na ang pera ay galing sa pinaghirapan ko. Ayoko na maranasan ‘yung hirap ng buhay ng pamilya ko noon na kailangan pang mangutang pang-tuition at baon,” she revealed to Female Network.  

Cath then began beefing up her knowledge with tips from financial experts like Chinkee Tan and “Facebook groups ng mga iponaryo.” She continued, “‘Yung learnings from the books of Coach Chinkee Tan inspired me a lot para magiponAng daming learnings doon na nai-apply ko sa buhay ko at naging financially responsible ako na dati hindi ko nagagawa.” 

Tip #2: Allocate a specific amount for your savings  

The first thing that Cath does upon receiving her salary is to write down a budget list. Having a “financial management system” is important “para ‘di ka nagtataka kung saan ba napunta ang pera mo,” she said. 

For that, she follows the formula “salary-savings=expenses” wherein her savings amounts to 10% of her salary. “Binubukod ko na ‘yun at hindi ko siya dapat gastusin. P1,500 lang ‘yun monthly na diretso na sa alkansya,” she said. 

After that, Cath splits up the remaining amount between her parents’ allowance and other expenses, then puts the cash inside a “budget wallet organizer.” 

Kung may matitira pang pera bago ang payday, ise-save ko pa din,” she added.  

Tip #3: Live within your means  

All goals require sacrifice and for Cath, that means prioritizing her necessities over luxuries. “Dapat alam mo ang pinagkaiba sa kailangan mo at gusto mo lang. Unahin ang mga needs over wants. Isantabi ang mga bagay na kaya mo naman mabuhay kahit wala ‘yun kasiluho now, luha later,” she wrote on her Facebook post on January 2, 2020.  

This involves fighting the urge to splurge on a new gadget or “adding to cart” again and again whenever there’s a sale online. Cath explained, “‘Di bali nang walang iPhone basta may ipon. Hindi ako nagu-upgrade ng cellphone basta nakaka-text, nakaka-call, nakaka-FB, at nakaka-selfie. Iwasan mo din ‘yung mga dobledobleng number tulad ng 11:11 at 12:12. Learn to live within your means.” 

Cath also lessened her daily expenses by choosing home-cooked meals over fast food and driving to school with her own electric bike instead of taking public transportation. 

Isang taon akong nagbabaon ng lunch saschool kung ano ulam sa bahay, ‘yun din ang ulam ko. Free ang meryenda saschool pagteaching staff kaya less gastos,” she said on her post. “Bumili din ako ng school service na e-bike at nakakatipid ako ng P1,500 a month sa pamasahe. I-charge ko lang ng eight hours, nagagamit ko na siya ng one and a half week tapos P200 lang ang approximate na konsumo niya sa kuryente sa loob ng isang buwan. O ‘di ba, bongga. Bawi ko na ang pinambili sa laki ng natipid ko.” 

Tip #4: Be a wise spender 

While Cath made it a point to spend only on things that she needs, the iponarya also knows the value of treating yourself to little luxuries.  

Hindi ako maluho na tao. Inuuna ko muna ‘yung mga needs bago ang wants, simpleng pamumuhay, pero syempre, hindi ko kinakalimutan i-treat at bigyan ng reward ang sarili ko big or small accomplishment man ang nagagawa ko,” she told Female Network.  

The key, she said, is to do it in limitation. “Just be a kuripot (wise spender) dahil ang pera mo ay hindi pinupulot at syempre,  kapag wala kang bisyo, sigurado ang inyong pag-asenso,” she added. 

Tip #5: Find other sources of income 

Some people would think that stretching one’s paycheck beyond ‘petsa de piligro’ is close to impossible, more so saving up. The answer to that, according to Cath, is finding other sources of income.  

In addition to her salary, the money-smart teacher drew her savings from several side jobs: “May e-loading business ako, printing services sa bahayat nago-online selling din ako ng pre-loved clothes namin ng hipag ko ‘pag may free time ako. Nag-invest din ako safruits business ng sister-in-law ko na kumikita naman kahit paano.” 

Although engaging in all these tasks may require you to modify a thing or two about yourself, Cath assured that it will all be worth it.  

Inalis ko ang pagiging mahiyain dahil nahihiya ako noon mag-online selling. Nagingflexible ako at nagkaroon ng time managementsa work at sa mgaextra sideline ko. Kailangan lang talaga ng dedication para mareach yung ipon goal mo,” she said. 

Other popular ipon challenges 

Aside from Cath’s P60,000 ipon challenge, another easy way to start your savings is through the “Invisible 50 challenge” wherein you put away every 50-peso bill that you get in a day inside your coin bank for a year. 

If your budget is tight, you can opt for the “Loose coin challenge.” Similar to the “Invisible P50,” this would require you to set aside every coin that you have—no matter if it’s P1, P5, or P10—for your savings. 

Another would be the “52-week ipon challenge” that works by increasing your weekly input in a span of 52 weeks. If you saved P50 for this week, you must shove P100 into your piggy bank the following week, and so on. 

What’s important, as Cath said, is to turn saving into a habit. “Keep on saving. It doesn’t matter how much. Just save kahit piso-piso pa ‘yan kasi walang1 million kung walang piso,” she advised. “Tiwala lang sa sarili na magagawa mo dahil if others can do it, you can do it also.”